Thursday, February 28, 2013
Jodi Arias case February 28 Thursday
the Jodi Arias trial is better than any courtroom drama ever written. Prosecutor Jose Martinez is trying to break her on the stand- to admit whether she had planned to kill Travis before she got to his apartment. She started crying and couldnt go on so the judge had to stop and break for recess. Its starting up again in an hour. If he breaks her on the stand today and she admits she had it all planned out oy, what can I say? I really beleived it wasn't premeditated. My next book will have to be Don't Kill That Man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Watching the Jodi Arias case discussion on Dr Drew and he has a criminal expert saying she was a stalker- as an author of a internationally famous book in this area I must say that I am disappointed in Dr Drew and this expert- when Jodi was checking Travis out on Myspace years ago she was looking to see if he was cheating on her and indeed he was- was that stalking or bustng a narcissistc sociopathic manipulative liar who is cheating on you
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Sweet story/video about a very successful woman who was determined to find a relationship and went on an online dating site and met a cool artsy guy - which led to marriage
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/03/fashion/weddings/lisa-schwartz-david-jacobsen-weddings.html
Monday, February 18, 2013
the Jodi Arias case Feb 18, 2013
Jodi Arias is like thousands of women who are read my books. Enamored, or should I say obsessed with a non committal, charismatic, handsome, sexy, seductive men. She went down a different path though when she killed the guy rather than knowing when to walk away form the black jack table, and making an appointment with a therapist!
You can ...see from her testimony that she was in complete denial of her rage at Travis by making such a production out of wanting to be "friends" with him even after he dumped her for other women. Wasn't she insulted? Humiliated? Talk about being out of touch with your feelings.
I don't think the murder was premeditated though. I don't think she was driving around plotting and planning how she was going to knock him off. I think at the end she traveled 1000 miles there to get her Travis fix. When us girls are infatuated with a man we travel. I once flew from NY to Paris to spend a weekend with a man I was infatuated with. ( I paid for the airfare and he wasn't even my boyfriend) When you aggressively pursue men you like and you have the resources to do it, you have to be a big girl and know how to deal if and when it doesn't turn out the way you want.Often you can't stay friends if it doesn't work out. And who wants to be friends with some guy who rejects or hurts you anyway- so no loss there!
Oh, and I certainly don't think she wasn't under his hypnotic spell.Give me a break. Please! This isn't exactly Clinton, president of the US and leader of the free world and Monica Lewinski. This is Travis, some typical, a dime a dozen, narcisssitc, , non committal ambivalent man into kinky sex It was Jodi who made him into this glorious superstar. She hypnotized herself. This not a case of "battered womens syndrome". She didn't live with him ,he didn't support her financially, she wasn't married to him and didn't have children with him. It's a case of a woman in love, obsessed, in like with a man who frustrated her and enacted a lot of his intimacy issues with her .
It seems that Travis was dealing with some kind of Madonna/whore complex with a split between his idealized woman/wife/ partner image and his desire for a sexually aggressive/assertive woman. He may have had some self hatred for his own love of kinky,light S and M sex and projected his disgust on to Jodi. Perhaps this explains why he needed to always be distancing from her and punishing her with his new girlfriends. Travis desired Jodi but not for a marriage. However she wanted the whole enchilada with him and couldn't cope with her feelings of abandonment rejection and loss. She is not Travis' victim though. She could have stopped bothering with him any time she wanted. It was her choice to stay connected to him.
Their relationship was a sadomasochistic one. When he'd torture her with telling her about his other women he was seing she'd go along with it like a submissive masochist. Yes she occasionally dated other men but only to retaliate in some way- to gain some of her power back from him. I dont think she'd d have dated any men or even look at one if Travis had committed to her. She was just marking time with those men to fill in the gap. If Jody had been is some type of therapy at the very least reading some type of self help relationship books out there( including mine) she may have just told him to take a hike with his immature stupid middle school dating behavio . Instead she grabbed the sadistic position at the end to the umpteenth degree and killed him. In the last few moments I bet he rejected her in some way probably torturing her with some more women info which pushed her over the edge. She snapped, went insane and bludeoned him to death.
Well,so much for trying to be friends with a man who has humiliated you and rejected you.
You can ...see from her testimony that she was in complete denial of her rage at Travis by making such a production out of wanting to be "friends" with him even after he dumped her for other women. Wasn't she insulted? Humiliated? Talk about being out of touch with your feelings.
I don't think the murder was premeditated though. I don't think she was driving around plotting and planning how she was going to knock him off. I think at the end she traveled 1000 miles there to get her Travis fix. When us girls are infatuated with a man we travel. I once flew from NY to Paris to spend a weekend with a man I was infatuated with. ( I paid for the airfare and he wasn't even my boyfriend) When you aggressively pursue men you like and you have the resources to do it, you have to be a big girl and know how to deal if and when it doesn't turn out the way you want.Often you can't stay friends if it doesn't work out. And who wants to be friends with some guy who rejects or hurts you anyway- so no loss there!
Oh, and I certainly don't think she wasn't under his hypnotic spell.Give me a break. Please! This isn't exactly Clinton, president of the US and leader of the free world and Monica Lewinski. This is Travis, some typical, a dime a dozen, narcisssitc, , non committal ambivalent man into kinky sex It was Jodi who made him into this glorious superstar. She hypnotized herself. This not a case of "battered womens syndrome". She didn't live with him ,he didn't support her financially, she wasn't married to him and didn't have children with him. It's a case of a woman in love, obsessed, in like with a man who frustrated her and enacted a lot of his intimacy issues with her .
It seems that Travis was dealing with some kind of Madonna/whore complex with a split between his idealized woman/wife/ partner image and his desire for a sexually aggressive/assertive woman. He may have had some self hatred for his own love of kinky,light S and M sex and projected his disgust on to Jodi. Perhaps this explains why he needed to always be distancing from her and punishing her with his new girlfriends. Travis desired Jodi but not for a marriage. However she wanted the whole enchilada with him and couldn't cope with her feelings of abandonment rejection and loss. She is not Travis' victim though. She could have stopped bothering with him any time she wanted. It was her choice to stay connected to him.
Their relationship was a sadomasochistic one. When he'd torture her with telling her about his other women he was seing she'd go along with it like a submissive masochist. Yes she occasionally dated other men but only to retaliate in some way- to gain some of her power back from him. I dont think she'd d have dated any men or even look at one if Travis had committed to her. She was just marking time with those men to fill in the gap. If Jody had been is some type of therapy at the very least reading some type of self help relationship books out there( including mine) she may have just told him to take a hike with his immature stupid middle school dating behavio . Instead she grabbed the sadistic position at the end to the umpteenth degree and killed him. In the last few moments I bet he rejected her in some way probably torturing her with some more women info which pushed her over the edge. She snapped, went insane and bludeoned him to death.
Well,so much for trying to be friends with a man who has humiliated you and rejected you.
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